For a while, I’ve known that any blog about listening to God and to each other would have to go there.  What does sex have to do with listening to God and to each other? Well…everything.  God cares a lot about sex. Two of the ten commandments deal directly with sexuality. Sex is foundational in God’s plan for creation. From the book of Genesis to the latest ministry scandal, dysfunctional sexuality wreaks havoc in every area of life.

But what about listening? You know those couples that seem to have it all figured out?  They make staying in love look effortless.  They got there by listening to the Holy Spirit,  asking God to renew their minds and teach them to recognize real love and reject counterfeits.  They listen sacrificially to their spouse.  They have conversations they didn’t want to have.  What looks effortless is the culmination of years of inner work.  Whether we pursue healing together or individually, none of us can skip it.

So if you’re single, you’re not off the hook. Yeshua harnessed passion, desire, and romance, living a sexually pure lifestyle.  I won’t insult you with the same old misused Bible verses. He has the answers you need.

If you’re a part of God’s family, we’re family.  Family looks out for each other.  When one family member falls, other members love unconditionally AND bring correction when needed.  Family goes there even when we’d rather say, “It’s private”.

If you’ve been sexually abused, you aren’t the only one who’s been violated.  The whole family suffers when you suffer. I don’t mean to saddle you with more guilt, but to remind you that the family has a mandate to support your pursuit of wholeness.

Your pornography addiction isn’t just your addiction.  It threatens your immediate family and countless others.  If you allow any kind of perversion into your home, your kids aren’t safe, and mine really aren’t either. When a family member commits, or is a victim of sexual sin, the pain, fear, and shame will eventually come out sideways.

If we’re serious about being family, your pain,and even your dissatisfaction is my business.  You don’t have to share video footage, but you need to get past the taboos and get help.  Healthy people often need guidance in the area of sexual and reproductive health because we all need to unlearn the negative messages we’ve absorbed.  And there’s no shame in that. In fact, family is where that needs to happen.  Believers should be having the best sex and feeling great about it.

And If someone shares their intimate struggles with you, opinions and anecdotes won’t cut it. You need to get past your embarrassment and ask God to show you how to be wise and innocent as you address these sensitive, life or death issues.

Get informed. Get real.  And get busy (with your spouse).  Our health as a family depends on it.